MAKING IT BETTER: Don’t Underestimate The Power Of The Subconscious Mind
I love the concept of the subconscious mind. Partly because I grapple with it constantly, but even more importantly because I am constantly faced with how impactful it is in people’s lives and how unaware people are at how powerful a part it plays in their lives. Let’s start off by being clear about the […]
MAKING IT BETTER: No Place Like Home!
I have just come back from spending a little under a month at home in Nigeria. The time went far too quickly and I also chose to spend the time in a slightly different way than I usually do. Ordinarily when I go home I tend to accept almost all and every invitation to a […]
MAKING IT BETTER: What’s On My Mind?
I have a mixed bag of thoughts so I decided to put them all in the mix and share them with you. Hopefully one or two will resonate with someone. Well I will start with the elephant in the room, the elections! All done and dusted right? INEC and some others are celebrating a peaceful […]
MAKING IT BETTER: When Do You Know It’s Time To End a Friendship?
Over the years I have received many letters from mostly women describing the betrayal of one friend or another, or of a relationship that feels one sided, or of someone feeling like she is being taken advantage of by someone she thought was a friend. In all these letters the one theme that stood out […]
When You Truly Start Counting Your Blessings, Your Whole World Will Turn Around!
Nothing stays the same, everything must change, what goes up must come down, night will turn to day, glass half full rather than half empty and so on. These are all clichés we hear all the time which after a while don’t really mean anything to us; but they are there for a reason. They […]
The Long Term Devastating Effects of Sexual Abuse Young Survivors
Over the past few years there have been numerous stories, articles, revelations of rapes, and other sexual abuses on very young girls. This trend continues unabated. It has almost begun to feel uncomfortably and perversely as if it is the norm and as with other forms of violence against women, that it is just the […]
MAKING IT BETTER : The Psychology Behind Women Blaming And Shaming Other Women
‘Woman’s lip bitten off by the girlfriend of the man who gave her a free ride’; that was the headline to a recent story in one of the dailies. It immediately made me think of the numerous stories in the papers, on the radio, on TV reality shows, real life crime stories and one of […]
MAKING IT BETTER: Prioritising Your Mental Health in 2019
I am focussing on mental health in a direct way at this time for a few reasons. As we enter into the New year and a more manic period with the impending presidential elections, there are already signs that it will not be without some casualties, which will cover a wide spectrum. In addition to […]
MAKING THINGS BETTER: It’s Okay To Feel Excited!
Reading the papers every day, reading the exchange of comments on social media, and indeed listening to the news, I think it would be fair to suggest that the bulk of information around is negative and predicting further gloom and doom. This is perfectly understandable based on all the various occurrences taking place around the […]
Inauguration Week Through My Eyes!
I had decided I wanted to get a full sense of the experience of the inauguration of the Governor of Ekiti state Dr John Kayode Fayemi and the First lady Bisi Adeleye Fayemi. I had never been to the inauguration of a Governor and this one was close to my heart for many reasons, so […]
MAKING IT BETTER: When Do You Know You Need To Get Some Help?
Have you heard the expression you don’t have to be mad to have mental health problems? Well it is true and this is the case more so than ever in today’s fast paced society that we live in. Over the past few weeks you might have noticed I have laid emphasis in paying closer attention to people […]
MAKING IT BETTER: A Moment To Pause and Give Thanks….
So another dear sister lost her own personal health battles a week ago and was taken from us far too young. I salute you dear sister. Go well on your journey home to rest. Your elegance, grace, charm, intellect will always be remembered by those of us who were privileged to spend time with you. […]
The Healing Quality of Healthy Interpersonal Connections
Recently I was once again reminded of the strength of and need for relationships that hold up and survive the test of time. A good friend, sister and someone I can confidently say I consider my family rolled up into the UK a few weeks ago. We hadn’t seen or spoken to each other in […]
MAKING IT BETTER: Does Fear and Anxiety Hold You Back?
Let’s start off being very clear that fear and anxiety are not the same thing. I have had my share of both. Fear is a response to a real or perceived imminent threat. Anxiety on the other hand is an emotional fear of expected or anticipated threat. It can be an unfocussed worry; feelings of […]
MAKING IT BETTER: Compassion, Empathy, Humanity
These are words that sound quite simple and straightforward but in reality are quite powerful and mean so much. As human beings we have been created to have these qualities inherently within us. These are some of the gifts that have been bestowed upon us as human beings that separate us from the animal kingdom. […]