MAKING IT BETTER: Don’t Underestimate The Power Of The Subconscious Mind
I love the concept of the subconscious mind. Partly because I grapple with it constantly, but even more importantly because I am constantly faced with how impactful it is in people’s lives and how unaware people are at how powerful a part it plays in their lives. Let’s start off by being clear about the […]
MAKING IT BETTER: No Place Like Home!
I have just come back from spending a little under a month at home in Nigeria. The time went far too quickly and I also chose to spend the time in a slightly different way than I usually do. Ordinarily when I go home I tend to accept almost all and every invitation to a […]
MAKING IT BETTER: What’s On My Mind?
I have a mixed bag of thoughts so I decided to put them all in the mix and share them with you. Hopefully one or two will resonate with someone. Well I will start with the elephant in the room, the elections! All done and dusted right? INEC and some others are celebrating a peaceful […]
MAKING IT BETTER: When Do You Know It’s Time To End a Friendship?
Over the years I have received many letters from mostly women describing the betrayal of one friend or another, or of a relationship that feels one sided, or of someone feeling like she is being taken advantage of by someone she thought was a friend. In all these letters the one theme that stood out […]
When You Truly Start Counting Your Blessings, Your Whole World Will Turn Around!
Nothing stays the same, everything must change, what goes up must come down, night will turn to day, glass half full rather than half empty and so on. These are all clichés we hear all the time which after a while don’t really mean anything to us; but they are there for a reason. They […]
The Long Term Devastating Effects of Sexual Abuse Young Survivors
Over the past few years there have been numerous stories, articles, revelations of rapes, and other sexual abuses on very young girls. This trend continues unabated. It has almost begun to feel uncomfortably and perversely as if it is the norm and as with other forms of violence against women, that it is just the […]
MAKING IT BETTER : The Psychology Behind Women Blaming And Shaming Other Women
‘Woman’s lip bitten off by the girlfriend of the man who gave her a free ride’; that was the headline to a recent story in one of the dailies. It immediately made me think of the numerous stories in the papers, on the radio, on TV reality shows, real life crime stories and one of […]
MAKING IT BETTER: Prioritising Your Mental Health in 2019
I am focussing on mental health in a direct way at this time for a few reasons. As we enter into the New year and a more manic period with the impending presidential elections, there are already signs that it will not be without some casualties, which will cover a wide spectrum. In addition to […]
MAKING IT BETTER: How Have You Made Someone Feel Today?
Or maybe the question could be how did you make someone feel yesterday? Whichever way you ask it the question is something we should ask ourselves every day. As we come to the end of the year, that on one level appears to have gone very quickly but on the other hand has been packed […]
Women Making It Better For Others…Thandiwrap!
On my daily travels I come across so many men and women making incredible contributions to the well being and lives of others. Sometimes what they do is not recognised or validated because it doesn’t come with much fanfare. In these times of grandiosity, modesty is often ignored; even jeered at and other forms of […]
MAKING THINGS BETTER: It’s Okay To Feel Excited!
Reading the papers every day, reading the exchange of comments on social media, and indeed listening to the news, I think it would be fair to suggest that the bulk of information around is negative and predicting further gloom and doom. This is perfectly understandable based on all the various occurrences taking place around the […]
MAKING IT BETTER: My Own Personal Rant!(3)
As I left the shores of the mother land, our great nation, full of hope and determination, thinking about how at the end of the day regardless of any other nationality I may be able to claim, Nigeria is my true home and the only country I can truly say is mine; I was given […]
MAKING IT BETTER: Speaking My Truth!
In this column, every so often I started writing a section called ‘my own personal rant’ (which was warmly received…thank you very much) I would like to add another section I am calling ‘speaking my truth’ that is making its debut today. During this bizarre Trump era, we have heard of alternative facts, we are […]
Inauguration Week Through My Eyes!
I had decided I wanted to get a full sense of the experience of the inauguration of the Governor of Ekiti state Dr John Kayode Fayemi and the First lady Bisi Adeleye Fayemi. I had never been to the inauguration of a Governor and this one was close to my heart for many reasons, so […]
MAKING IT BETTER: When Do You Know You Need To Get Some Help?
Have you heard the expression you don’t have to be mad to have mental health problems? Well it is true and this is the case more so than ever in today’s fast paced society that we live in. Over the past few weeks you might have noticed I have laid emphasis in paying closer attention to people […]