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LOUD WHISPERS: As We Begin The Ramadan Season

LOUD WHISPERS: As We Begin The Ramadan Season

Two years ago I was at a traditional engagement ceremony in Lagos.  The couple were from Yoruba families, so I could simply have said it was a Yoruba engagement ceremony. However, since a lot has been changed and modified over the years, what passes for an engagement ceremony according to Yoruba tradition is now a […]

LOUD WHISPERS: Amina and A Story Of Survival

LOUD WHISPERS: Amina and A Story Of Survival

In December 2008, I attended a forum in Nairobi, Kenya, which had been convened to discuss appropriate support programs for survivors of violent conflict. The participants were mostly women’s rights activists and gender specialists from post/current conflict countries such as Liberia, Sierra Leone, Rwanda, Sudan, Somalia, Uganda, Burundi and Zimbabwe. On the delegations from each […]

LOUD WHISPERS: ‘How Can I Be A Good Husband?’: Ten Suggestions

LOUD WHISPERS: ‘How Can I Be A Good Husband?’: Ten Suggestions

I did not want to write about marriage this week. In light of the fact that International Day of Families falls on May 15th, and the day will be marked throughout the week,  I have decided to address an email from a young man who read my last article on Loud Whispers, ‘Then and Now’. […]

LOUD WHISPERS: Then and Now

LOUD WHISPERS: Then and Now

Traditional Rulers Then: Any qualified Prince could indicate an interest in the throne and the oracle had the final say. Now: The oracle picks from a shortlist of Tycoons, Lawyers, Academics and retired service men. Unemployed or poor Princes need not apply.  Time Then: The sun indicated day and when the moon rose it was […]

LOUD WHISPERS: Tempus Horribilis

LOUD WHISPERS: Tempus Horribilis

Queen Elizabeth II gave her famous ‘Annus Horribilis’ speech on November 24th 1992 to mark the 40th anniversary of her ascension to the throne of England . Before then, people were familiar with the more traditional use of the term ‘Annus Mirabilis’– wonderful year. The introduction of the phrase ‘Annus Horribilis’ fascinated British people and […]

LOUD WHISPERS: Patrick, Patricia, Frederica And Frederick

LOUD WHISPERS: Patrick, Patricia, Frederica And Frederick

I was in Harare, Zimbabwe for the African Feminist Forum (AFF) which took place April 9th-13th. It was the 4th AFF and it brought together approximately 160 African Feminists from 30 African countries.  On the first day, a representative from the Zimbabwe Feminist Forum (ZFF), our Zimbabwean hosts, told us how, when they were conceptualising […]

LOUD WHISPERS: Mother Of The Year – The Angelina Option

LOUD WHISPERS: Mother Of The Year – The Angelina Option

A few days ago, I was in a conversation with a friend about the frightening levels of violence against women and girls across Africa. In Nigeria, the levels of abuse have reached such an unprecedented high that we should be clamouring for a state of emergency on the issue. Many times, people say that since […]

LOUD WHISPERS: Adults And Good Manners

LOUD WHISPERS: Adults And Good Manners

Recently, I was in a cosmetics shop to buy some items. As I was browsing through the merchandise, I could hear a woman talking on her cell phone. It took me approximately twenty minutes to make up my mind about what to put into my shopping cart. All this time, the woman was still on […]

LOUD WHISPERS: The Queen’s College Lagos Sexual Harassment Allegations: Five Lessons For All Of Us

LOUD WHISPERS: The Queen’s College Lagos Sexual Harassment Allegations: Five Lessons For All Of Us

Over the past three weeks, there has been a lot of discussion about sexual abuse and harassment allegations concerning a teacher at Queen’s College, Lagos and a student. I believe the case generated a lot of controversy because of the school involved – Queen’s College. This is a school that has traditionally been associated with […]

LOUD WHISPERS: All Humans Are Equal, But Some Are More Equal Than Others

LOUD WHISPERS: All Humans Are Equal, But Some Are More Equal Than Others

In last week’s article about the ‘Foot in Mouth’ Senators in Nigeria for abovewhispers.com, I wrote about the patronizing attitude of some of our male Senators towards Nigerian women. I did not expect that the distinguished gentlemen would take up more time and space this week, with the dismissal of the Gender and Equal Opportunities […]