LOUD WHISPERS: Please Help Me Understand
Perhaps there is just too much nonsense going on Perhaps folks young and old are simply behaving badly There are many things that do not add up They might not all seem connected Trust me, they are Please help me understand How an entire country was rendered ‘cashless’ because of new notes How all old […]
The Toxicity Of People and Its Management
At some point in our lives, we would have encountered people with toxic qualities. Toxic people do not necessarily mean bad people or people we hate, they might be friends, family members, or even our love partners. Who can you call a toxic person? Someone with toxic qualities is either abusive, unsupportive or someone who […]
Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome : (What You Need To Know)
Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS) is a hormonal disorder causing enlarged ovary with small cysts on the outer edges of the ovary. Its cause is not known but it involves a combination of genetic and environmental factors. A lot of people including myself do not know about this condition. I heard about this for the first […]
LOUD WHISPERS: ‘There Are No Strangers Here’
Brenda staggered through the streets, her eyes smarting from the smoke of the vehicles and tyres burning around her. The sounds were so loud and piercing, after a while, she did not hear them anymore. ‘Maybe this is what the end of the world feels like’ she thought as she was shoved by a screaming […]
LOUD WHISPERS: Before The Next Eulogy
A few years ago, I wrote a Loud Whispers essay called ‘Before the Next Eulogy’. It was about breaking the culture of enablement around gender-based violence. The recent death of the talented gospel singer Osinachi Nwachukwu after years of domestic violence is so painful because of its predictability. My maternal grandfather was known as a […]
LOUD WHISPERS: Please Stop!
Please stop! I just saw a five-year-old girl dancing at her birthday party on a thick carpet of dollars and Naira Please stop! That was after seeing the little boy of no more than four, wearing a ‘Billion Dollar Gang’ neck chain, swigging from what looked like a bottle of beer while his mother twerked […]
LOUD WHISPERS : Living Dangerously
Last year, during the COVID19 lockdowns, I got a call from an NGO working with young people in Nigeria. Someone had contacted them to draw attention to the plight of a female student in a tertiary institution who was being blackmailed by one of her classmates. She had been manipulated into sending nude images of […]
LOUD WHISPERS: Happy Birthday
I organised a public reading for my latest book ‘Where is Your Wrapper’? towards the end of April. Just before the event, I had a conversation with one of the panelists who would be asking me questions about the book. She wanted to know if I feel inspired every time I sit down to write, […]
Who Is A Strong Woman?
For long, women have been seen as weak, frail and having nothing much to contribute in certain fields. The strength of the woman was typically attributed to her biological productivity and ability to condone and endure pain. When the story changed, and women were found thriving in things that were assumed to be beyond them, […]
LOUD WHISPERS: Self-Love
A few years ago, a Ugandan friend of mine, let me call her Sandy, sent a long message on an email listserv we were on. It was an account of her experience in the hands of American immigration officials. Sandy was on her way back home from Uruguay via one of the American airports and […]
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