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LOUD WHISPERS : Agony Aunt

LOUD WHISPERS : Agony Aunt

This week, I am offering my services as an ‘Agony Aunt’, the one you talk to about all your problems, to which you already have your own solutions, you are just looking for assurance or affirmation. I don’t like playing the role of Agony Aunt for two main reasons. First, all relationship problems are person […]

LOUD WHISPERS: Speak Up! Speak Out!

LOUD WHISPERS: Speak Up! Speak Out!

All they want is to be heard All they want is for us to listen All they want is to show us their visible and invisible scars All they want is to drive nice cars if they can afford them Wear nice clothes if they can buy them Carry a laptop if they have one […]

LOUD WHISPERS: Empowered Girls = Powerful Women

LOUD WHISPERS:  Empowered Girls = Powerful Women

I am delighted to have been asked by Oxfam-Nigeria to deliver this lecture, My Voice, Our Equal Future, which is the theme of this year’s  International Day of the Girl Child 2020. It is heartwarming to have a day set aside to reflect on the present and future of girls regardless of their context or […]

LOUD WHISPERS: Sheila’s Blues

LOUD WHISPERS: Sheila’s Blues

Years ago, I coordinated a documentary project with five other people. It involved shooting footage in six African countries over a period of two weeks. One of the crew members, let me call her Sheila, was married to another member of the team, I will call him David. Obviously, something was wrong with their marriage. […]

LOUD WHISPERS: A Day Will Come

LOUD WHISPERS: A Day Will Come

For a few seconds, Temi thought she was going to pass out. Everything and everyone was a blur. People around her were talking loudly, laughing, exchanging greetings and saying things to her. Her cousin Maggie was trying to whisper something in her ear. The loudspeakers were blaring and she could barely make out what the […]

LOUD WHISPERS : Spitting On Ourselves

LOUD WHISPERS : Spitting On Ourselves

In September 2009, I was standing in line at the customs desk at Kotoka International Airport, Accra, waiting for my bags to be checked so I could proceed to the airline check-in area. I was with a colleague from work, and we were on our way to a meeting in Senegal. There was a Chinese […]

LOUD WHISPERS: The Twenty-Five Year Old Speech: ‘Building a New House’

LOUD WHISPERS: The Twenty-Five Year Old Speech: ‘Building a New House’

In August 1995, I attended the United Nations World Conference on Women in Beijing. I took part in many activities at Beijing, the highlight was addressing one of the daily plenaries at the NGO Forum with a packed audience of thousands of women. This is the speech I gave at a plenary on diversity in […]

LOUD WHISPERS: Kamala Harris

LOUD WHISPERS: Kamala Harris

It took me a long time to get over the electoral loss of Hillary Clinton in 2016. When there are candidates or electoral races I am interested in, I can be an election junkie. In November 2008, I was so invested in Barack Obama’s election that I hosted an election night vigil with some friends […]

LOUD WHISPERS: COVID19 Diary

LOUD WHISPERS: COVID19 Diary

Saturday July 18: JK comes back home after spending almost a week in Abuja. He complains of a headache. I ask him if he feels feverish and he says no, I touch his neck and it seems okay. He always falls asleep before me since I sleep rather late. I kept checking his forehead throughout […]

LOUD WHISPERS: The War On Women

LOUD WHISPERS: The War On Women

A few days ago, we received the news of the passing of Ms Tolulope Arotile, the first ever female combat flying helicopter pilot in the history of the Nigerian Air Force. She died in a car accident and she was in her early twenties. It is such a dreadful loss and I pray that God […]