By Faith James
Do you think it is possible to love someone who doesn’t love themselves?
Beyond what anyone else may think they can give you, self-love is the greatest gift you can ever give yourself.
The standard of living that society has established puts pressure on most people because they struggle internally with the fact that they cannot afford it. As a result, rather than being at peace with who they are, low self-esteem starts to seep into their hearts and sabotage their self-love.
To have a lovely relationship, you must first love yourself enough to share that love with someone else. The first necessary component of a strong relationship is self-love.
SIX ESSENTIALS TO ACHIEVING SELF-LOVE.
- BELIEVE IN YOURSELF: Since humans are competitive by nature, comparing ourselves to others is only natural. But it might be harmful.
Believe that you are lovable, a unique gift, priceless and that no one ever regrets coming into contact with you.
Stay away from unhealthy comparisons!
Most good relationships that were headed for a lovely home ended because unhealthy comparison took over as the motivating factor.
Everything begins with you as a person. To stop comparing who you are, what you have accomplished, and where you are in life with others, you must first love and trust yourself sufficiently.
2. EXIT TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS: If carefully considered, the type of relationship you choose to accept hurts your mental health and may even be the cause of your low self-esteem.
Do you regularly experience physical, sexual, or emotional abuse from your partner? Being with someone like that is pointless because they will wreck your life, cause you unending misery, and make you, even more, hate yourself.
When a relationship becomes a source of pain rather than love, learn to walk away. Anything that doesn’t exude affection toward you is not worth your time or attention.
3. PLACE VALUE ON YOURSELF: You must esteem yourself if you want to develop self-love. Never appear to be vulnerable before people.
Always endeavor to invest time, money, and energy into your personal development, and strive diligently to be held in high regard by others. Placing value on oneself increases your worth and promotes self-love.
4. DEVELOP SELF-CONFIDENCE: Be courageous enough to speak your mind or refuse anything that makes you uncomfortable.
Put yourself first without feeling guilty. Be bold enough to decide for yourself as long as you do so in a morally right way. It shows how much you value yourself.
5. FACE YOUR FEARS: Don’t be afraid to make mistakes, and when you do, don’t stay stuck in the hurt; instead, accept responsibility for your deeds, correct your mistakes, and make the most of your experience.
6. GIVE YOURSELF THE BEST CARE: Instead of waiting for a partner to define love to you, stop waiting and start creating the atmosphere that makes you feel lovable and like the best companion anyone could ever hope to have.
Keep in mind: You cannot give what you do not possess. Love yourself first if you want a healthy relationship.
©Faith James.