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LOUD WHISPERS: How Generous

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One thousand five hundred couples

One thousand five hundred mattresses

One thousand five hundred bed sheets

One thousand five hundred cooking pots

How generous

The thirty-year-old unemployed graduate and the twenty-year-old apprentice

The forty-three-year-old broke man and the seventeen-year-old minor

The fifty-year-old lonely and broke widower and the thirty-year-old poor widow

The not less than sixty-year-old man with two wives at home and the twenty-one-year-old unemployed girl

How generous

One thousand five hundred HIV tests

One thousand five hundred counselling sessions

One thousand five hundred bags of rice

One thousand five hundred gallons of cooking oil

How generous

All on the taxpayers’ dime

Opinions are split

It is a waste of money. Are there no other priorities?’

‘It is a good thing. It will save young people from fornication’

‘Religion allows more than one wife.  It is a good thing to offer help to those who want to marry more to reduce the number of excess women on the streets’

‘This is institutionalised paedophilia’

‘Marriage is not a poverty alleviation program’

‘The people want programs like this. They are asking for it’

‘If you are broke, you have no business looking for a wife’

‘What happens when the rice and oil finishes?’

‘It is nothing new. Everyone must marry’

One hundred thousand Naira for the groom

One hundred thousand Naira for the bride

How generous

Opinions are free

They cost nothing

Everyone is entitled to an opinion

Unfortunately, they are not entitled to their own facts

Nigeria has 133 million people, 63% of the population, living in multi-dimensional poverty – fact

Nigeria has approximately eighteen million children out of school – fact

Nigeria sill has one of the highest maternal mortality rates in the world – fact

Education of girls in Nigeria is endangered due to kidnappings and insurgency – fact

One thousand five hundred broke couples coupled by the State, might (conservatively) produce up to five thousand children over the next ten years – fact

One thousand five hundred broke couples coupled by the State will strain healthcare facilities – fact

One thousand five hundred broke couples coupled by the State will stretch education services – fact

The projected thousands of children from this act of generosity might end up on the margins of society if care is not taken – fact

The poor are entitled to dignity

The poor deserve respect

The poor are human beings too

Governments have a lot of options

Education

Job creation

Skills acquisition

Women’s empowerment

Digital literacy

Financial literacy

Low-interest loans

Small business support

Structured cash-transfers

Support for targeted cooperatives

Agricultural programs

General infrastructure

There are many things that can be tried, piloted or combined

The budgets for mass weddings could have addressed some of the above

How do we jump straight to paying for one thousand five hundred beds

A literal breeding ground for generational poverty

Religion, culture and tradition are important drivers

It is however no excuse to keep people from becoming more

Mass weddings have been around for a while

Many people ask for them and expect governments to respond

Governments are always keen to jump on populist bandwagons

They will get their reward at the polling booths

The objections to this practice come from a bigger picture

It is about the survival of a country

It is about what happens tomorrow

There are many things we need to move ahead

To be competitive with other nations

To be part of a world that keeps getting harder on all fronts

Three thousand pillows for broke heads to sleep on will not get us there

We need the next generation to do well

Our survival depends on it

Hopefully, they will be Lawyers, Doctors, Scientists, Engineers, Teachers, Nurses

Not another generation who will require free beds, rice and cooking pots

How generous of them

When some sons marry, they get free houses

When certain daughters marry, they get free cars

Guess what these children all have in common?

They are educated

They are connected

They are set for life

They have a thousand five hundred reasons never to be poor

How generous

That they would think of those who don’t have and decide to help out

With one thousand five hundred beds and mattresses

A clear strategy to keep them dependent and pliant forever

Then the next generation hits the streets

How truly generous

Bisi Adeleye-Fayemi is a Gender Specialist, Leadership Coach, Policy Advocate and Writer. She is the Founder of Abovewhispers.com, an online community for women. She can be reached at BAF@abovewhispers.com

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