Growth is not a palatable experience, growth can come with some level of discomfort or pains. It is not normal for you to be stagnant, nobody will get to heaven by chance. Heaven is a place for prepared people. For you to grow in the things of God, you must be a prisoner, you must be yoked with Christ and discipled, your choice must be tamed and your will must be of God. There is no man that is free, every man is a prisoner of something either knowingly or unknowingly. You must not be the one incharge, a man that is not tamed will keep living a life of pretense. A tamed man will always live for Christ anywhere. When you are not in Christ, you cannot do the will of God, and it is in doing the will of God that bring you growth. God cannot trust a man that is not tamed, God will not introduce the process of taming to you if you don’t follow Him rightly. You respond to the system, God will start the initial process and then He will expect your response. Until God can decide hundred percent for you. 

Every man that will grow, you must be with Christ. The rate at which God Penetrates you is directly proportional to your submissiveness, there is no way God can train a man that is not yoked. You can’t grow outside being yoked with Christ, forget growth if you are not yoked with Christ. Growth comes when your eyes are opened, no man will grow beyond what he can see. Transformation is a function of what you see. Your eyes must be opened for you to have the revelation of God, no man rises above his knowledge. You are changed to what you know and see. That is, whatever you see, you will become. It involves you seeing right and well, because you can’t grow if you can’t see. When your eyes are not open, you will live in darkness. Any man that enjoyed God has seen something. When your eye is not open, God is not the goal. Until your eyes are open you don’t see godly things. 

Nobody can force,  growth, what you don’t value does not benefit you. You don’t convince people about the truth, when you cannot see it, you cannot do it. Those who do the truth pay the price. Knowledge is a function of what you see. When you don’t see the right thing you can’t grow. If you don’t know or see the hope of Christ, you will not live a holy life. Your understanding is a function of what you know. When you cannot see, you will fall for distraction. Every man that cannot see right falls for distraction. What always makes the difference is what you know. Every man will be a victim if they don’t have knowledge, you can’t grow until you gain knowledge. When a man of knowledge comes, the difference will be known. You grow by gaining knowledge, you will be a slave to what you don’t know.

Any man who does not have knowledge will have the understanding of a child. Lack of knowledge can make you throw blessing away, for you to grow you must diligently seek and search God in prayer and in the word. God is not cheap, He is not on the surface. You can’t grow if you can’t pay the price. When you can’t search the word, you will search for something lesser than the word. Those who grow don’t talk 

(make noise), every man that gets God grows. When you are a man that walked with God, it’s a product of seeking. When God wants to make you grow, you begin to search for that hidden God. It is the word of God that makes you grow. 

Bible references;

Eph 4:1, 4:13-14, 2Cor 5:14, Mat 11:28-31, Mark 3:14, Sos 1:4, Eph 1:18, 2Cor 3:18,

1Cor 14:20. Isa 45:15, Jer 29:12-13.