I think the pressure to get married is always on the girl child, well, it’s understandable though because medically, her wellness for child bearing is limited but! When that question pops up, it’s not about her wellness.,it’s more about the unnecessary calculation that the society has placed on her. A friend of mine called me to let off her anger about how everyone that sees her ask about marriage, not even a job.
She is a fresh graduate and of course, she is in the labour market. Instead of getting her a job they ask her about marriage? Really? Priorities should be set right. Why and how will you marry without a job? No! That’s not right.
This marital pressure thing can be so annoying especially when a close family friend gets married and God help you, you are about the same age. Oh my, you are in for it.
At the wedding everyone looks at you and starts praying for you, you know the prayer,”We are coming for Yours this time next year”.
Usually, It’s good to know if that person is even prepared for marriage.
Marriage isn’t by age and sight. The mind is the base of marriage. If one isn’t mentally prepared first? So what is the point? I am just so tired of the hulla-baloo over marriage. Please let the girl child relax. Let her breathe, let her find herself and when it’s time she will know.
Self-Discovery first before Marriage.
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My dear, It’s tiring o. I have a good job and I do take care of my family, But No! They make it look as if I am worthless because no marriage yet. God will help us in this society
I was waiting for this rant thing yesterday but I didn’t come up. Mehn! I feel like everything we just overlook in the society is said here. This marriage thing ehn? I taya. My cousin got married, my younger cousin precisely and since then, I haven’t rested in the house
”’Detutu, what is going on?, are they not approaching you?”’Really? I am so tired. Like the writer said, when the time comes the person involved will know. God bless this site mehn!
God bless u, we share the same view here ooo.
Marriage isn’t by age and sight oo, their are lots of things involved in it that most ladies missed due to pressure from their parents, friends and the society at large. If one isn’t mentally, Emotionally, Spiritually, financially prepared so what is the point?
Marriage isn’t 2mins indomie that you quickly prepare. Once you are in, you are in ooo
Looooool. I can’t laugh o. But really, I hate it when they make it look like a woman isn’t complete without marriage.
Marriage will come when it wants to and not everyone will get married sef
It’s not how far but how well. I totally enjoyed this
This days many people rush into marriage and start regretting later.
Marriage is to be enjoyed and not to be endured.
When my mum start her ranting about marriage issues, I just tell her not to rush me that God’s time is the best. Even thou she knows am in a serious relationship, and especially now that almost all my friends are getting married and putting me on their train, then she will be like when are you goin to get married? You are just doing Bridesmaid up and down…..
Am not mentally prepared for marriage but once I get the go ahead from God am good to go……
You’ve said it all. I don’t know why people think in the same direction why it comes to this issue. Marriage or no marriage it is my choice. I invite you once am ready and stop been concerned when you are not.
@dseed… Mehn! You hit it. They aren’t concerned actually, all na for information. I enjoyed this write up though, sincere, funny and engaging.
Thank God I’m a man. No pressure, just cruising. The only pressure I get is about money though. Loool.
@Toluene… I can imagine that feeling of when will you marry, you are just doing bestie and committee of friends. But really, Nigerian mothers can be something else. They can use anything and everything to make their points.
But really, thank God I am a woman, it just means that procreation lies in my power and the world depends on it. Bravo to me and the women in the world.
@Fola. Who says we aren’t proud to be women. Abeg, go and sleep
@maria and monica. Please o. I am just saying my own, don’t come at me seriously. Loool
@Maria…… Yes ooo my sister. They always have someone to compare you with which can sometimes be annoying and depressing. Am not moved again about all this marriage issue, I just want the best of the best in marriage.
@Yomi….. We are proud to be women also.
I totally agree with this write up. I can totally flow with this because i have friends who complain a lot about this. Who wants to get married without having some vital things in place. Marriage is not a one day or one year thing, it is till death do us part. I think people forget the vows. Thank you for the “rant.”