Create alignment in values and outcomes between you and your partner. It’s natural and even desirable to have some differences when it comes to interests and day-to-day activities, but it’s important to ensure that you and your partner are working together in the same direction. Compatibility is all about aligning values and outcomes.

Committed, successful couples appreciate and recognize their differences, and see them as sources of excitement and enrichment, not conflict. This is key to alignment: seeing differences in real situations as positive pieces of a thrilling relationship that is rich with uncertainty, yet aligned enough on the important things to be stable and fulfilling.

Put yourself in your partner’s place and understand things from their point of view. Choose some point of contention that has caused you to negatively react in the past, and look at it through your partner’s perspective. Be a character actor who is about to play the role of your partner on stage: you can only give a good performance if you really understand the emotional perspective of that character, and relate it back to some authentic emotion of your own. This will allow you to get out of the past, step into the present moment and really understand how to get the passion back in your relationship.

Taking these extra steps toward understanding your partner’s perspective is an invaluable part of being able to honour their feelings while also demonstrating your love for them. Appreciate the uniqueness and intrigue of your partner and you will never fail to cherish their role in your life.

If you want a relationship full of passion and love, what are you willing to do for it? The key to finding love and learning how to get passion back in your relationship is to give as much or more than you want to receive mentally, emotionally and spiritually to your partner.