There is a lot of emotion around the area of our lives that we call relationships, and the reason for all that emotion is because we tend to make relationships life and death.

We do that because whenever we enter into a relationship we come face-to-face with our deepest fears.

Our partners, intimate and familial, our dearest friends, our kids, our parents — those for whom we care most deeply — are the most vivid mirrors life has to offer. Relationships reflect back to us our conditioning, driving needs and our belief systems. That’s why the quality of your life really is the quality of your relationships.

So it’s no wonder relationships are so critical to us, and also the reason our relationships carry with them such strong charge. If there is one thing that Sage and I want to do, it’s to help neutralize the charge we bring to pure love.

The truth is, you can solve anything with the ones you love if you drop the charge of blame. Every relationship offers us the opportunity to learn something, including the things that make us angry, frustrated or afraid. Those upsets aren’t coming from our partners, they’re coming from our conditioning, past impressions and our models of the world. (Including the models we don’t even like.)

From those models of the world come all of the expectations we hold of ourselves and our partners. The upsets come from our own rules and expectations and the stories of blame we tell.

So here’s something to think about EVERY DAY of the YEAR:

If you knew today was your last day on earth, what would you communicate to your beloved ones?

How would you love?

What stories would you let go of?

If you had the luxury of knowing it was the very last time you would see them, what wouldn’t be worth the upset anymore?

Wouldn’t all the upsets you have with the ones you love disappear if you knew this was the last moment you’d ever have with them? We challenge you to live from this place of a higher truth today and every day. The hurt comes from the love we force our heart to withhold. The pain comes from punishing our partners. That’s not love. A relationship is a place we go to give something, not a place we go to get our needs met.

Let LOVE wake you up to the GIFT of LIFE.

DECIDE how YOU will SHOW UP.
Who are YOU willing to BECOME for the ones you love.
What STATE would you be in if this was the last moment you had together?