Home » Archives by category » Loud Whispers (Page 3)

LOUD WHISPERS: When There Are No Words

LOUD WHISPERS: When There Are No Words

Friday April 20th 2018 was one of the worst days of my life. A very close friend of mine lost her 27 year-old daughter the same day she was burying her 98 year old father. We had all gathered to celebrate the life of a wonderful man who had spent all his life raising generations […]

Nomzamo: A Tribute to Winnie Nomzamo Madizikela Mandela

Nomzamo: A Tribute to Winnie Nomzamo Madizikela Mandela

The first time I saw Winnie Nomzamo Madizikela-Mandela in person was at the 1995 UN Women’s conference in Beijing, China. She attended the NGO Forum in Huairou, and even though there were scores of sessions running simultaneously with event organisers competing for the attention of thousands of delegates, it was no surprise that the sessions […]

LOUD WHISPERS: Grandma’s Funeral

LOUD WHISPERS: Grandma’s Funeral

My voice has gone.  My feet hurt so badly. People are talking to me and I am nodding my head but I can’t hear a word of what they are saying. I have a four-hour drive ahead of me because I have to make it to Lagos no matter how late it is. There is […]

LOUD WHISPERS: The Dog Trainers

LOUD WHISPERS: The Dog Trainers

Joke: Hi ladies, I am sorry I am late. Have you ordered? Tammy: No, we were just about to. Hope you are okay? Joke: No, I am not alright. I feel terrible. I had another argument with Ben this morning. Shewa: What about again? When will you two stop fighting? Joke: It is Ben and […]

LOUD WHISPERS : Jallo’s Secret

LOUD WHISPERS : Jallo’s Secret

Once upon a time, there was a blacksmith called Jallo who was famous all over the land for his smithing skills. People came from far and near to seek him out. He had a number of young apprentices from nearby villages learning the trade from him.  Jallo was a rather strict man but he was […]

LOUD WHISPERS: The List

LOUD WHISPERS: The List

I am a big fan of the American drama series Scandal.  Shonda Rhimes, the brilliant writer and producer of Scandal, is well known for using her shows to run a commentary on social and political issues. Ms Rhimes is so revered by ABC studios where she has produced shows which include Scandal, Grey’s Anatomy and […]

LOUD WHISPERS: A Mother’s Pain

LOUD WHISPERS: A Mother’s Pain

There is this saying, ‘You can’t dance at two weddings’. It is meant to emphasise the fact that it is hard to perform more than one task at a time. Apparently, those who coined this saying are not Nigerians. Yesterday, I literally danced at three weddings in two different cities. However, there is a price […]

LOUD WHISPERS: We Are Still Here

LOUD WHISPERS: We Are Still Here

                  (In commemoration of International Women’s Day, March 8th)   Please don’t look for us, we are not lost We have not been stolen away We are still here Even when they came for so many of us And shoved us into the deep belly of the devil There are still enough of us left […]

LOUD WHISPERS: Beneath The Surface

LOUD WHISPERS: Beneath The Surface

A few days ago, I was at a recording for a TV program. The first part of the show was an interview with the anchor about my book ‘Loud Whispers’, and we also talked about current issues affecting Nigerian women. The anchor had invited two young women to join us for the second segment. It […]

LOUD WHISPERS: Her Name Is Fezekile

LOUD WHISPERS: Her Name Is Fezekile

In November 2005, a young woman who became known as ‘Khwezi’, accused then South African Deputy-President Jacob Zuma of rape. The alleged rape had taken place at Jacob Zuma’s residence where young Khwezi was spending the night as a house guest. Khwezi’s father had been Jacob Zuma’s colleague in Umkhonto we Zizwe (MK) the military […]