What Do You Know About Pleasure?

By Jaiya Ma. | Design a life of deep connection and intimacy.

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How many books have you read on business?  On personal growth? Chances are – many.

Now, how many books have your read on sex? Not as many? You’re not alone.

If you’ve ever read Napoleon Hill’s Classic Think and Grow Rich, then you are familiar with the importance of your sexuality in awakening latent genius. Consciously understanding how to cultivate and utilize sexual energy is key to any type of success; when you are unconscious of how you’re using your sexual energy, it can end in a lot of unpleasant situations.

So why haven’t you given yourself an education in sexuality?

Sure, many have had plenty of sex education. But what did your culture teach you about sex and pleasure? About your identity and what you should or shouldn’t like or do? How great a job did your school do at teaching you what you like, or what others might like? What did your parents teach you (hint: even their silence taught you something)? What did romantic movies teach you? What did your religion teach you? Your peers?

See, you’ve had a sex education; but how much do you understand about your sexuality?


Great sex education doesn’t shame you; it doesn’t shame other people, either. It should help you to make great choices, to honor yourself and others, and to create the freedom to explore and experiment safely.

A great sex education leads to great sex and deeper connections. Because when you know your body, you can communicate what you like – and thus increase satisfaction. And when you know a partner’s body, you have more confidence that you can please them.

Also, when you understand who you are erotically, you avoid feeling broken and you know what will turn you on. When you have clear boundaries, and can communicate them, you keep yourself safe emotionally and physically. When you don’t have shame, you are freer to be who you are and to enjoy sex. And when you are enjoying sex at this level, you have richer more satisfying relationships and connection, which equates to more success in this world.


Who you seek as a mentor is very important. There are a lot of great sexuality educators out there, and I’ve seen mentors who shame people or give poor advice.

A fantastic mentor can teach you not only the geeky educational materials but can also create transformation in your life.  Make sure to do your research and to seek out the best.

Get a comprehensive education and be sure to implement what you learn. Information alone does not equal transformation in this area, you must take what you learn and put it into action.

Mastery comes from learning and implementing distinctions. A great place to begin mastering distinctions about what turns you on is mastering the Erotic Blueprints™.


Understanding each Erotic Blueprint Types is like getting the secret decoder ring to becoming a sex life superhero and claiming your own satisfaction and fulfillment.

Here is a quick look at the 5 Erotic Blueprints Types:

Energetic:  Aroused by space, anticipation and tease. They are very sensitive and need time to assimilate to sexual touch; too much too fast turns them off.

Sensual:  Aroused by sensation: touch, sound, taste, smell, etc. They bring beauty, comfort and whole-body sensuality to a sexual encounter. Their biggest turn off is being stuck in their head and living in tension. A Sensual Type needs to be relaxed to open to sexual connection and turn-on.

Sexual:  Aroused by the simple act of intercourse. Sex is fun and they use sex to relax. However, they can get stuck in a limited view of sexuality and can be goal-oriented.

Kinky:  Aroused by the taboo. But they oftentimes have deep shame about their taboo desires.

Shapeshifter:  Aroused by all of the above. They are endlessly creative but need a partner who is also equally adventurous. Sometimes they shift to be what others want them to be instead of owning their own sexuality, needs and desires.

Empower yourself and discover how to feed, speak, heal and expand your own and your partner’s Erotic Blueprint.

The first step to transformation is to “Take Massive Action,” so go out there, get some great mentorship, get fully authentic with yourself and your partner and learn how to speak each other’s Erotic Blueprints!  That’s the path to more passion, more desire and more intimacy in your relationship.

Source: www.tonyrobbins.com

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